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Some Days are Diamonds, Some Days are Rocks

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I can never resist an ode to Tom Petty, and today was not a diamond. This morning I woke up feeling like a complete failure. I broke my dry January pledge to have some sparkling rose… yes, I know #basic… with friends. My insecurity and fear of being left out commandeered my willpower. A few glasses ...

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STOP Saying You’re Sorry – Break the Compulsive Apologizing Habit

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Any other compulsive apologizers out there? The Sorry habit is a tough one to kick. This is a problem I still struggle with at times since it goes hand in hand with people pleasing and perfectionism. I have apologized when I did nothing wrong and often in lieu of other polite phrases such as “Excuse me?” I ...

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I’m Not Happy – And I Figured Out One Reason Why

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In my late 20s, stagnation was how my mental and emotional life would be defined. I had checked a lot of my self-imposed, obligatory, accomplishment boxes: MBA  √ Husband √ House √ Dog √ Corporate Job with a decent salary √ Happiness    ?!? The gaping unchecked box which I refused to acknowledge was the true fulfillment of a life lived on my terms, in ...

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External Validation: Your Worst Enemy

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The reason why I couldn’t get out of the Netflix-marathon-esque rabbit hole of destructive patterns and choices? Tunnel vision focus on external validation. I briefly saw my reflection in the black screen between episodes, but I sat frozen and just let it continue. 

The need to satiate my feelings of inadequacy outweighed any chance for evolution to occur. My belief system was as follows:

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